“I don’t want to be any trouble!”

One of the unspoken “side-effects” of illness, whether physical or mental, is the added stress of worrying whether one is causing problems for friends and family.

I think the short answer is “yes”, and the more accurate answer is “yes, but we think it’s worth it.” We all have perfectly healthy friends who need help occasionally, who need us to forgive when mutual plans are messed up because of something they overlooked or didn’t anticipate. In theory the sick person could always anticipate something going wrong, in which case we’d probably be annoyed with them for depriving us unnecessarily of their company, and knowing that their behavior is making their own lives harder in order to reduce inconveniencing us.

On the one hand, while we admire people trying to take care of their own problems, it can get frustrating to try to have to deal with a problem that has gotten worse when help could have kept it a minor inconvenience. At the same time, it’s too easy to criticize those who ask for help frequently. It seems a no-win situation. But as parents know that while it’s easier to do almost anything for a child, that only by letting them do it themselves (even though it takes longer, and possibly more effort for the parents), this is the way kids learn and get better, and feel good about themselves. We have to let our friends choose their own comfort levels about when to ask for help. But we also need to reassure them that needing help isn’t going to drive us away, that in balance, the extra effort having them in our lives is worth it for us.

Since they have to spend so much time and effort focusing on dealing with their problems, those problems may be the only aspect of the relationship they notice. We need to help them see past that filter, and not feel that we are keeping them around out of sympathy.

This may be why many of us are happy to push for awareness and general societal supports, from ramps to interpreters for the deaf. If we recognize the rights of all to participate in society in a useful, meaningful, and satisfying way, our whole society is better off. We benefit from the things that they can do. On a personal level, friends each have some special something that enhances our lives that makes it worth while for us to make sure that the restaurants we go to have a reasonable selection of gluten-free or vegan offerings, or even that activities are enjoyable for everyone participating. This is normal social interaction for everyone (I’m not counting the occasional narcissist who assumes that just because sports is the center of his life that everyone must enjoy it). Yes, sometimes we may want to eat Mexican, even though our best friend thinks cilantro tastes like soap, or wish we could go see fireworks, although our friend has PTSD that is triggered by loud noises. It’s a matter of scale.

There are some people who seem to think that their special circumstances entitle them to have the world, including you, rearrange itself for them. Hey, a jerk is a jerk whether they have a handicap or not, I’m not talking about that. There are mothers who still do their adult son’s laundry, but most of us achieve a better balance. I haven’t yet found a perfect answer to how to decide when to ask for or to offer help when it might make a task go faster, but make the person feel more helpless, and I think it probably each situation needs to be looked at individually.

I am getting older, and this means I sometimes have to have jars opened for me, and get help carrying heavy loads. I don’t drive after dark anymore. I don’t hear as well, nor is my memory as annoyingly good (there may be an advantage to that). All of us, unless we die young, are going to need help. And, let’s face it, not only is an old person not as cute as a baby, we’re a lot heavier, so it’s not as easy to pick up an elder as it is to change a baby’s diaper.  We’d better make ourselves pleasant enough to make it worth it to those we need help from.

There’s no answer to this one, we can only think about it, and try to be kinder to each other.

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Shamanism without Borders 10-18-17 on New Normal

Please join Tchipakkan and her guest, Shamanic Practitioner Stephanie Seger, on the New Normal 8 pm Wednesday, October 18, 2017, 8-9 p.m. edt. Well be talking about Shamanism without Borders.

Miss the live show? the archive is here: http://tobtr.com/s/10344969

Shamanism Without Borders is a global rapid response network of shamanic practitioners who tend to traumatic events and natural disasters.

Shamans throughout time have used special techniques and principles to tend to trauma and disasters. Shamanism Without Borders (SWB) began as a guidebook, written by the Society of Shamanic Practice, detailing a cross-cultural method for tending to these incidents. Since then the book has become a supportive tool for a global network of shamanic practitioners and community leaders who provide rapid response to natural disasters, acts of terrorism, war, pollution, and anything that causes disruption and suffering to humanity, to the animal and plant life, and the earth’s delicate bio-system.

Stephanie is a Shamanic Practitioner that currently bases her practice out of Northern Virginia. She has studied Shamanism for over 10 years and has been immersing herself in the current contemporary Shamanism course work. She graduated from a two year program from a Sandra Ingerman licensed practitioner in 2016, and is currently dual enrolled with Christina Pratt and an apprenticeship with a Shamanic Seminole Elder. Combining her traditional teachings with contemporary, she has been leading public ceremonies since 2009. She opened up her doors with her practice back in 2014, and has been leading Heart Centered Sound Circles, Ancestral Healing Circles, Shamanic Journey Groups, Land Healing Ceremonies and private one-on-one healing sessions with individuals or groups of people.
For more information, please visit www.eagletherapies.com
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Please join us at 8 on Wednesday on your computer- go to www.Liveparanormal.com and click on Listen here. If you miss the live show, it will be archived, and we’ll list the link here a bit after nine. If you’d like to call with question or comments (live only) the number is 619-639-4606
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Veil Between the Worlds on the New Normal

Please join Tchipakkan on the New Normal 8 pm Wednesday, October 11, 2017, 8-9 p.m. edt.  Miss the live show? Archive here.

Around this time of year, you may have heard how as we approach Samhain, aka Halloween, “the Veil between the worlds becomes thinner”.  I want to talk about that ever-so-common image, and see how well it works in practice. The theory is, that it’s easier for the dead to contact the living, and vice versa during this time period. Some say that there’s a similar “ebb and flow” around Beltane (others disagree).  Morgan Daimler suggests that not believing in a veil between the worlds makes her a pagan heretic.

How literally should we take this common term? There are certainTimes of Liminality, during which making contact between worlds is more easy, but how much of that is cultural? How much is a personal perception? How much of a barrier is there between worlds? In what ways does calling it a veil serve to help us understand, and in what ways does it confuse the issue?

To listen on your computer open a tab to www.Liveparanormal.com,

between 8 and 8:50 eastern time

Want to call in and join the conversation? Call 619-639-4606.

You can listen later, Liveparanormal archives the shows by date on their website.

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Importance of Ancestors with AVee Baron

Please join me snf my guest AVee Baron on the New Normal 8 pm Wednesday, October 4, 2017, 8-9 p.m. edt.

If you missed the live show- it’s archived here: http://tobtr.com/s/10314023

We’ll be talking about Ancestors. Most cultures have some version of ancestor veneration, where the spirits of their beloved dead aid them in their lives. Even modern folk sometimes feel in touch with our relatives. Mediums and Spiritualists assure us that they watch over us and tweak reality to help us as they can. As with most forms of mind-to-mind (soul-to-soul) contact, frequent interaction makes it easier to communicate. Rituals, offerings, keeping an altar all help, and this time of year (approaching Samhain/Halloween) is one where many feel closest to their ancestors.

This year at the Changing Times-Changing Worlds conference, my guest AVee Baron will be running an Ancestor Ritual (as well as teaching Cartomancy).

AVee is a pagan who has practiced new age, Buddhism, Wicca and Witchcraft. She’s a Reverend in the Correllian Tradition, speaks and teache on many subjects, and owns Witchy Spellz N Wares occult online shop in Connecticut. She also has several other pages and web sites for different purposes.

Witchy Spellz N Wares, for products and spell services.: http://witchyspellzandwares.wixsite.com/viatrixsage.

Sage Willow and Horn University- Studies in in Paganism and Witchcraft   covers online or in person eclectic study courses.

A Witches Journey  is about craft and pagan information;

Babalon Shrine Scarlet Woman is a Thelemic and related page; the Shrine of the Mystical Stag Group.

The Witchy Spellz N Wares  Page lists my working services and products.

 

Listen on your computer: Open a window on your computer to www.Liveparanormal.com, click the “Listen Live and Chat” listing under the “radio-listen/chat room” heading, and click “LISTEN HERE” next to “the New Normal”.

We’d love you to phone in with questions: 619-639-4606 (live only).

If you know you’re going to listen later but have a question, look on the facebook events page and leave a question there. We’ll try to answer it during the show.

If you can’t tune in 8-9, Live Paranormal.com archives its shows by date, and I archive them by date, guest, and topic on my website: https://tchipakkan.wordpress.com/the-new-normal/directory-of-podcasts/

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Oracle Cards with Sophia Shultz on the New Normal

Please join Tchipakkan and her guest Sophia Shultz, on the New Normal 8 pm Wednesday, September 27, 2017, 8-9 p.m. edt.

Please join Tchipakkan and her guest Sophia Shultz, on the New Normal Wednesday on www.LiveParanormal.com

Born and raised in suburban Philadelphia, Sophia Kelly Shultz has been working professionally as an artist for 29 years, at first specializing in “fantasy” portraits in which customers could order portraits as, for example, centaurs or fairies, etc.–and more recently in the spiritual and mythological paintings for which she is now widely known.

In 2013 she released the Stone Circle Oracle, and this year produced the Promethean Oracle. Each of the cards in either deck is a small version of one of her beautiful paintings, with deeply meaningful images, which will allow you access to the psychic insight that open you to hidden wisdom. The Promethean Oracle taps into the wisdom of many mythologies and cultures.

Many people assume that all “fortune telling” cards are a variation on Tarot, but there are many other ways to tap into our subconscious- or that of the Divine.

See more of her work here: https://badgersoph.deviantart.com/

We’d love you to phone in with questions: 619-639-4606 (live only). If you know you’re going to listen later but have a question, leave a question on the fb  event page (or email me), and we’ll try to answer it during the show.
If you can’t tune in 8-9 pm eastern, Live Paranormal.com archives its shows by date, and I archive them by date, guest, and topic on my website: https://tchipakkan.wordpress.com/the-new-normal/directory-of-podcasts/

Here is the website for the  new deck:

http://www.schifferbooks.com/the-promethean-oracle-6311.html

The art can be found here:

https://badgersoph.deviantart.com/gallery/56703690/Art-for-New-Deck

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Ethnocentricism and the Power of Words

Wednesday, September 20, 2017, 8-9 p.m. edt., Tchipakkan and Thor Halvorsen will be talking about Ethnocentricism.  If you miss the live show, the archive will be here: http://tobtr.com/s/10284843

This isn’t going to be a discussion of supernatural or paranormal abilities or practices, but the subject comes from the issues of how cultures can program us to treat those who are different unfairly, and how we can attempt to avoid this in ourselves.

Thor Halvorsen is a student of sociology and language, and he will address how apologetic language and status differences in regards to language use shapes our perceptions, and how we see those in other religions, and how we see ourselves.

How we speak not only reflects role expectations, class, and gender bias, it also creates it. Using examples from the religious and cultural treatment of Native Americans, African Americans, the Deaf, and women, and other religious and cultural colonialism, we will look at how we use everyday speech to create a world that perhaps we didn’t intend.

We will talk about creation of modern myths, and stereotypes in media (think about the images movies portray of our culture as rich, white, and violent).

The modern metaphysical community is aware of the power of Affirmations: what you think of gains power, what you speak of becomes real. We need to become more conscious of how our words create reality. We don’t need “spells and charms”, speech, writing and the internet is powerful enough. We need to use it with more intent.

To listen on your computer go to www.Liveparanormal.com (sign in- signing up is free), click Show Directory under Shows. and click “LISTEN HERE”. Call 619-639-4606 to join the conversation (live only). Other episodes are archived.
If you can’t tune in 8-9, Live Paranormal.com archives its shows by date, and I archive them by date, guest, and topic on my website: https://tchipakkan.wordpress.com/the-new-normal/directory-of-podcasts/

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Talk Like a Pirate Day

This is a great day to remember what a combination of imagination and the internet can do.
Wikipedia says: “International Talk Like a Pirate Day (ITLAPD, September 19) is a parodic holiday created in 1995 by John Baur (Ol’ Chumbucket) and Mark Summers (Cap’n Slappy), of Albany, Oregon, U.S., who proclaimed September 19 each year as the day when everyone in the world should talk like a pirate. For example, an observer of this holiday would greet friends not with “Hello,” but with “Ahoy, matey!” The holiday, and its observance, springs from a romanticized view of the Golden Age of Piracy.
According to Summers, the day is the only known holiday to come into being as a result of a sports injury. During a racquetball game between Summers and Baur, one of them reacted to the pain with an outburst of “Aaarrr!”, and the idea was born. That game took place on June 6, 1995, but out of respect for the observance of the Normandy landings, they chose Summers’ ex-wife’s birthday, as it would be easy for him to remember. (much more on Wikipedia)
 
Spin-offs of this invented holiday include talk like Shakespere Day, Talk like William Shatner Day, and even Skulk like a Ninja Day. There are other sources of weird holidays as well. I remember a calendar when I was a kid with a holiday every day; it included four or five Bluebeard’s Wedding anniversaries. There are holidays made up for TV shows: Festivus (Seinfeld), Freedom Day (Futurama), or Best Friends Day (Sponge Bob Square Pants), or books/movies- Hogwatch (The Hogfather), or Durin’s Day (LotR), or even comics- Sadie Hawkins Day was made up by Al Capp for L’il Abner, but it’s become a part of culture. Terry Pratchett’s 25th of May where those in the Glorious Revolution of Treacle Mine Road “wore the lilac”, has become a day to support Alzheimer’s awareness in honor of Sir Terry. Marketers have been using holidays to promote their products since at least the 19th century. The folks at Wellcat have come up with many, some of which have taken off (at least on the internet) Weird Al’s song Weasel Stomping Day parodies this phenomenon.
So just as we remind kids that anything that goes on the internet may haunt them forever, we also can revel in the idea that two racquetball players can create a holiday just for fun that will spread across the world.

Starwolf talks Otherkin on the New Normal

Please join Tchipakkan and her guest, Starwolf, on the New Normal.
You’ve probably heard of Transexuals, those who believe that they were born in the body of the wrong gender, but do you know someone who was born in the entirely wrong species? Maybe you are one? Have you tried to wag your tail, spread your wings, or been surprised by the body you are in? Perhaps you are pretty sure that you are really a fae, a dragon, or a direwolf? Discussions of Reincarnation often touch the point that we may not always incarnate as humans, but when we start talking Otherkin, we begin to explore what it means to be human when you have been something else and humans are not naturally familiar to you. This level of kinship feeling goes beyond identification with and attraction to another type of being.
Starwolf, a shaman and otherkin himself, will talk about this phenomenon with Tchipakkan on the New Normal Podcast Wednesday at 8 edt. Listen live on your computer at http://liveparanormal.com/  , and you can call in with questions or comments if you like 619-639-4606, 8:08 to 8:45.
As a shaman, Witch, professional psychic, Reiki Master and metaphysical engineer and soldier of fortune, Starwolf brings a broad range of knowledge and experience to the fields of magick, metaphysics and spirituality. His practical approach to adapting traditional metaphysical elements to modern lifestyles pulls magick into the twenty-first century. You can find him and his wife Catherine online as Foresight (the Information you need for the Adventure of Life) at www.ForesightYourPsychic.com  or www.ForesightYourCtPsychic.wordpress.com
If you can’t tune in 8-9, Live Paranormal.com archives its shows by date, and I archive them by date, guest, and topic on my website: https://tchipakkan.wordpress.com/the-new-normal/directory-of-podcasts/

The Kabbalah with Kathryn Smith (take 2)

Please join Tchipakkan and her Kathryn Smith on the New Normal 8 pm Wednesday, September 6, 2017, 8-9 p.m. edt. Listen on your computer at http http://liveparanormal.com/

This year at the Changing Times Changing Worlds conference Kathryn will be presenting Kabbalah: Concepts and Historical Overview
The Kabbalah, borrowed originally from Jewish mysticism, has become a fundamental building block of Western Esoteric studies. With mysterious diagrams, Hebrew letters, and often Hebrew terminology, it can seem impenetrable to the new student.
Most of us are not going to go into the decades of study the Kabballah requires, but would like to know a bit more, so I’ll be asking some basic questions of Kathryn about the major texts and schools, both Jewish and Christian, as well as history, concepts, and terminology.

This is not the same as the coming workshop, but me asking questions on what modern magick users should know about the Kabbalah. If you’ve wondered about the Kabbalah and want to find out a bit more without being overwhelmed, this hour may provide just the right introduction.

Kathryn Smith has been a student of the esoteric in various forms since the mid 1980’s, and began studying with R. J. Stewart in 1996. Since then she been exploring both the Western esoteric traditions and fairy lore. She’s currently pursuing advanced studies in teaching esoteric topics with R. J. Stewart and Anastacia Nutt.
If you’ve wondered about the Kabbalah and want to find out a bit more without being overwhelmed, this hour may provide just the right introduction.
Kathryn has been a student of the esoteric in various forms since the mid 1980’s, and began studying with R. J. Stewart in 1996. Since then she been exploring both the Western esoteric traditions and fairy lore. She’s currently pursuing advanced studies in teaching esoteric topics with R. J. Stewart and Anastacia Nutt.
We’d love you to phone in with questions: 619-639-4606 (live only). If you know you’re going to listen later but have a question, look on the facebook events page and leave a question there. We’ll try to answer it during the show.

If you can’t tune in 8-9, Live Paranormal.com archives its shows by date, and I archive them by date, guest, and topic on my website: https://tchipakkan.wordpress.com/the-new-normal/directory-of-podcasts/

Energy Healing with Catherine Kane Wednesday night

August 23, 2017 Energy healing with Catherine Kane

Please join Tchipakkan and Catherine Kane on the New Normal 8 pm Wednesday, August 23, 2017, 8-9 p.m. edt. If you missed the live show, the archive is here: http://tobtr.com/s/10243119

Popular “small medium at large, Cathy Kane will be joining me again. You may have seen her and her husband Starwolf at many a show or Renn Fair all over New England, reading palms and helping people make their lives better; or you may have seen her speak at Changing Times-Changing Worlds, or read her many books, or visited her websites Foresight (the Information you need for the Adventure of Life) at www.ForesightYourPsychic.com or www.ForesightYourCtPsychic.wordpress.com

 

The topic of the evening is energy healing. We will be talking about a wide range of energy healing techniques, their pluses and minuses, what you need to use them, how energy work can support your health and that of those around you and any other questions that you have on the topic.

Want to catch this interview, call in with your own questions?

If you just want to listen, you can go to www.Liveparanormal.com,, click the “Listen Live and Chat” listing under the “radio-listen/chat room” heading, and click “LISTEN HERE” next to “the New Normal”.

You can call in with a question or comment at 619-639-4606 (live only).

 

And, if you can’t tune in at that time, Live Paranormal.com archives

its shows by date, and Tchipakkan archive them by date, guest, and topic on her website: https://tchipakkan.wordpress.com/the-new-normal/directory-of-podcasts/

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